Frequently we are starting an endeavor and from the start we encounter strong resistance to our efforts,

An Obstacle

not even from people but from circumstances around us.

Are those Obstacles the Sign from Above that we are on a wrong path and should use our resources differently?

or, may be otherwise, those obstacles are simply an opposition to holiness and should be fought tooth and nail until they are overcome ?

The answer depends on where the opposition comes from.

If the source of the opposition is our own soul, then we are on the wrong path and need to quickly re-route our efforts into other channels.

If however the source of the opposition is the Other side, one definitely needs to add more efforts to break through the obstacles no matter the cost!

The question is: how to distinguish between the two?

Simple but fool-proof answer is Tefilla, tefilla that is properly directed and not highjacked by the ego.

We need to divest ourselves from ego to the maximum and direct our prayer to empower our soul, asking to clarify the situation.

Our current goal in question should become completely irrelevant for us during this Tefillah, as our only desire should be to submit our will to One Above and channel our energy for our Soul’s disposal.

If after that we see the obstacles weaken or disappear, we know to add more efforts to achieve our goal and break the opposition.

If however, our soul  was the source of the blockage, we will see clearly that the  endeavor is to be abandoned.

To arrive to this clarity however the Tefillah has to be structured  properly – under no circumstances we should pray for the obstacles to disappear on that first stage -

not even a hint of this desire should be in our Tefillah, or it can lead to  misleading results.

After we had confirmed that our goal is positive from Hashem’s perspective, we can and should use Tefillah to achieve it with all our energy, with both physical and spiritual effort.

This principle is simple enough, however to actually apply it on a daily basis, we need to start seeing the situation in perspective.

We need to learn to stop before we throw all our resources against any opposition we meet,

being that people or circumstances, and check: do we really fight the right party ?

Do we have a hard time because our ego is having major fun here? Do we battle our own soul?

The above might look a bit simplistic since it doesn’t address the subconscious blocks and programs,

this topic however is for another post.

Connection · Divine Providence · HASHEM · Ish Tam · Meditation · obstacle · Prayer · Soul · Tefillah

Initially I wanted to title this posting “How to use Tisha B’Av” or “How not to miss Tisha B’Av”, however those titles do not reflect the unique opportunity of that day.

The truth is, Tisha B’Av is the lowest day in the Jewish calendar, however precisely because of its gloomy nature it is the most suitable day to rectify all the falls that happened on that day, in this time of the year.  Any day when Hashem allows and helps us to get closer to him is a very good day, so why not celebrate Tisha B’Av?

It is a mistake to “suffer through” the day and think that we did what is required of us on Tisha B’Av.

The power of Tisha B’Av is exactly in the fact that it’s so low and deep.

Using the Springboard Dynamic, we can propel ourselves into astonishing ascent, towards  Tu B’Av, through the great opportunities of Elul, into the holiness of Tishrei and beyond!

To accomplish this jump we have to identify the reasons for the Destruction of our Holy Temple and our low spiritual state – reasons that are most relevant to us and rectify those flaws with Tefillah to the best of our ability.

Looking at the events that created and shaped the Tisha B’Av

(Incident with ten spies who caused the entire generation to die in the desert instead of inheriting Eretz Israel, Destruction of the First and the Second Beit HaMikdash)

- we see lack of Emunah ( belief  that absolutely everything is from Hashem),  idol worship, licentiousness, murder, and baseless hatred to another Jew.

None of those issues was completely rectified and they still remain and are  up to us to fix.

The grief over the destruction is only the first step. Grief and anguish over the loss of our intimacy with Hashem needs to be transformed into the constructive effort of Tikun – to fix the relationship between us and other Jews, relationship between us and Hashem, rectify what was broken on Tisha B’Av!

Article by Rav Yitzchak Schwartz provides great tools for this re-channeling.

May we be successful in doing our part and may Hashem bring our Redemption with joy and light, speedily, in our days,

Amen

Beit HaMikdash · Ish Tam · Moed · Prayer · Shekhinah · springboard · Tefillah · Temple · Tikkun · Tisha B’Ab

Tefillah at the Kotel

Tefillah is extremely potent spiritual tool, however like every tool it needs proper tuning and usage skills – that’s what we’ll try to cover in this posting.

There is a tremendous amount of literature dealing with the topics of prayer and meditation, however there is a lot of ambiguity in the meaning people give to those terms.

Here is the Wiki definitions:

“Prayer is a form of religious practice that seeks to activate a volitional connection to some greater power in the universe through deliberate practice”

“Meditation is a holistic discipline by which the practitioner attempts to get beyond the reflexive, “thinking” mind into a deeper state of relaxation or awareness”

Those definitions might be culturally accurate but they give little insight into the principles of how Tefillah and Meditation work.

The working definitions that help us would be:

“Prayer is an active act of changing the reality through changing yourself”

This definition is the resolution of the Paradox of the Prayer.

The paradox is frequently presented as this argument:

“If G-d knows what’s good for me, he will give it to me anyway as loving Father would – why would I need to pray? On the other hand, if something is not good for me, he won’t give it to me anyway even if I ask for it, so why pray?”

This simplistic approach doesn’t take into account that our life is a reflection of who we are on all levels of our soul and our body; our experience is a mirror of our entire self, which is the sum of all levels of our consciousness.

Since Hashem reflects to us exactly who we are, the way to change our reality is to change ourselves. The Change takes energy – the deeper is the level of the change, the more energy it takes.

Tefillah, prayer, is the primary tool for any change, spiritual and physical.

In order to use Tefillah, we need to focus and channel energy along the pathway of our desire, desire to change ourselves.

So our desires define the channels along which the energy of the Tefillah is directed and flow, the more refined and holy are the desires, the deeper and more elevated will be the change.

Ideally, during Tefillah our Higher Self, our soul takes over and gives us the direction to pray.

This is the meaning of short verse from Tehillim (51:17) we say before the Amidah prayer:

“Hashem, open my lips that my mouth may declare your praise”.

Our Lower Self (body/nefesh) supplies the energy for the Tefillah, our Higher Self gives us the desire/direction, and the process works in the unison towards the same goal of elevating the world, changing all of “me” and all of reality.

In a wider sense we can view “me” as the handle to the reality. Since everything is connected, our self is an integral part of the entire creation and the entry point into all levels of existence.

This is another perspective why changing the “self” is the only way to change the reality:

We can’t open a door by banging our head against the wall (unfortunately that’s how most people are trying to change the reality), we have to find the door (realize there is a proper way of changing the reality – Tefillah), grasp/turn the handle (learn to use Tefillah dynamics), open the door and come through.

The energy for Tefillah sometimes might come from above as well – particularly on Moadim and Hagim – Jewish holidays, so we can use the tremendous wave of holiness descending on those days to power up our Tefillah. Every special time (Moed) has it’s own energy flavor and helps to rectify/change the respective area of our soul (Pesach supplies energy of freedom, Shavuot is great for “upgrading” to higher level of consciousness, Succot allows us to achieve the state of joy, etc. )

Speaking about receiving energy from above, brings us to the second part of the whole -

Meditation and the role it plays. Without getting into the definitions and semantics of what word “meditation” means to different people, we’ll say that meditation is conducive to entering into the state of internal balance, the state of being connected to the subconscious part of mind, state of being nullified and open to receive from above.

If Tefillah can be very forceful, pushing and channeling energy with one’s will,

This state of meditation is completely opposite – it doesn’t allow any tension or forcefulness, it’s completely let go, opened and relaxed, like a flower under the sun,  all one’s body, mind and soul tuned in to receive.

It is said in Gemora that Chassidim Rishonim (Early Saints) would spend three hours each prayer service:

An hour for Pre-Tefillah meditation, an hour for the Tefillah itself, and an hour for after-Tefillah meditation. If we view meditation as the “recharge” operation and Tefillah as the energy-spending act, it is very probable that Chassidim Rishonim would accumulate energy before the Tefillah and restore it afterwards.

Hence Tefillah and Meditation have been two inseparable practices in Jewish tradition from the ancient times; those two are as breathing in and breathing out, being two sides of the same coin. Tefillah is working according to the male principle (in Kabbalistic definition), actively changing reality, Meditation according to female, passively receiving energy (to beused for the active stage). When one’s Tefillah/Meditaton is structured according to this male/female dynamic, the result is harmonious spiritual growth.

One of the reasons for the tremendous power of Tehillim (Psalms), is that they seamlessly combine both modes. They draw the energy from the spiritual realm and this energy is channeled towards the target of reading the Tehillim (being another person or situation).

Most people however have emphasis over one or another mode, frequently not even realizing the second mode even exists. So the neglected mode is happening subconsciously somewhere on the background, which greatly slows down one’s spiritual growth.

One has to be aware of this male/female dynamic to feel when is the right time for which stage. The high-energy stage is asking for the male Tefillah mode and energy-depleted or mellower state is conducive to the female Meditation mode.

Connection · Energy · Hitbodedut · Ish Tam · Jewish · Meditation · Prayer · Psalms · Tefillah · Tehillim

SpringBoard - always bounce back

Last posting we talked about the fact, that spiritual descent (which obviously causes emotional, mental and other “falls”) is necessary for the ascent that follows it.

The dynamic works exactly like a springboard – you always swing down in order to jump up.

It would be a mistake to think that we need some other external “positive energy” to swing us up.

The very momentum of descent should be used to ascend – that’s the core principle!

Again this can be illustrated in the springboard example – the very energy of the down swing is propelling us up – if we are ready to use it.

What is required of us is only to learn how to detect the start in upward move, connect to it, harness it and ride it as high up as it goes!

Now the practical part – how do we actually turn around?

First of all we need to understand that there is no harm in trying to turn around at any moment

- usually we can’t even conceive the idea of a turnaround while we are in a state of a free fall.

The fact that we are able to contemplate the thought of bouncing back means that the window of opportunity to do it is NOW!

It’s always best to catch the very first chance for the spring up. If we miss the first one, there will be the next, but it is going to be lower and the second one won’t let us jump back as high as the first one.

Once we realize that NOW is the moment, we should start DOING something that brings us UP. The actual practice can be very different for every person. Among general techniques that have intrinsic holiness and, hence, work for many people, are Tefillah (prayer), reading Tehillim, going to a Mikvah (if it is appropriate for our situation), learning Torah and more. (Torah learning can be very powerful tool if one knows how to engage the heart, not only the head).

Listening to the favorite upbeat music can be very powerful consciousness changer

(avoid negative dark music that can sent you flying way lower).

There is a pitfall in this situation however:

Since we have a lot of kinetic energy from the downward movement, we might be subconsciously tempted to release it in unproductive ways.

Typical things we frequently do in that situation:

Using eating, drinking, gambling and even drugs as an outlet for relieve

(The list here can run unfortunately long, those are just some examples).

This might even take a seemingly innocent form as eating lots of chocolate to feel a bit better.

I’m actually pro-chocolate, however I prefer to eat it in different circumstances, for Oneg Shabbat (enhancing pleasure of Shabbat)  for example .

In general, we should avoid resorting to lower-level pleasures – this only dumps the accumulated energy “into the ground”.

While the process may make you feel a little bit relieved for a short time (since the discharged energy doesn’t create the “downswing” pressure any more), it’s a dead end, since the turnaround does not happen, nothing constructive is accomplished and we get stuck with lower energy level in the “down” state.

Spilling negative emotions on someone.

While this may feel like a release, the energy is re-routed towards negative means creating unpleasant reality in our present and future.

Feeling the energy pressure can create very unpleasant feeling, however we need to recognize it as the moment of opportunity. This is the moment when we can call to Hashem in the manner beautiful Psalm 130 is teaching:

From the depths I called you Hashem (Psalm 130:1).

Interestingly the Psalm 130 is among others called “Psalm of Ascents” – Shir Hamaalot.

May Hashem always help us to find the right steps for the Ascent! And if we don’t see the steps we only need to ask Him to reveal us the way up, the “how to” of the upward swing, since the persistent Tefillah can achieve anything!

Shabbat Shalom!

ascent · chocolate · consciousness · Energy · HASHEM · Ish Tam · Mikvah · Oneg · Prayer · Psalm · Shabbat · springboard · subconscious · Tefillah · Tehillim · Torah

A friend writes:

“… the only problem or question is why after such a great [spiritual] reward and awakening… I get tested immediately and I feel like I not just fail, but fail miserably. And I feel like I am going backwards for some time before I get up and begin to slowly move forward. I feel like there is an explosion and a big drop before things get better and start going up. “

Well, the good news is, there is no such thing as “always steady spiritual growth” -
the real spiritual growth always have those wild up/down swings,
you usually can affect their depth and direction, but not to avoid them completely.

Moreover,  not only the descent is unavoidable, it is completely necessary for the ascent to happen.

This is connected to the non-homogeneous nature of time

Rav Akivah Tatz has great MP3 lecture you can download for free here:

Time and Timing
Same concept is explained in one of his essays in Living Inspired

Now the practical approach: How do you deal with it in real life?

This is best to explain by analogy with swimming in the sea or ocean in high waves. You can’t fight the waves and rise when the wave actually goes down – this will result in some unpleasant experience. Instead one needs to be composed and feel how the wave goes, follow it when you have to, slightly correcting your way within the wave as it goes up and down, up and down… When you tune in, this can be very enjoyable feeling.

Similarly in life “waves”, I try to stay detached and watch how it goes almost from a side. I know it’s difficult to stay detached from all that hormonal rush going along with emotions, however the key is to realize it’s not you – it’s the body, the body that goes into established patterns of reactions. Once you change the perspective, you can start changing those patterns of “guts reactions” as well.
The ”Restore My Soul” (Meshivat Nefesh) is compilation from Rav Nachman’s of Breslav teachings on the topic of ascent/descent dynamics, it explains those beautifully and gives plenty of practical advice.

ascent · descent · Energy · Ish Tam · Kabbalah · Living Inspired · Meditation · Rav Akivah Tatz · Rav Nachman of Breslav · Time · Tzaddik · Wave

Chodesh Tov!

Rosh Chodesh (Head of the Month) – New Moon Festival is described in the Torah as the day of rejoicing (Bamidbar (Numbers) 10:10) , the time of renewal. Even the word “Chodesh” – month – comes from the root “חדש” – “Chadash” – “NEW”.

Like all “moadim” – appointed times – Rosh Hodesh is the time of opportunity. The deeper meaning of Holidays and special times in Torah is not “commemoration” of some event, but an active opportunity to use the flow of energy that is descending at that time into the physical world. On Rosh Chodesh, the surge of energy that is creating the reality of the upcoming month is available to us – and the way to receive it is to be joyous!

This is because joy causes us to be expansive and enables us to receive Hashem’s light. On the contrary, negative emotions e.g., sadness, make us contract and unable to turn on our “receptive mode”
After ensuring that we do fulfill Torah’s directive to be joyous, we can harness that energy of Rosh Chodesh withTefillah. We can target specific issues in our prayer – because it’s much easier to change the month in its conception.

This can be compared to a garden hose that can create various shapes of a spout by twisting the nozzle – because it’s changing the shape of a jetstream of water in the place where it is forming.

Of course when we talk about “Changing the month”, we mean “Changing ourselves” in order to create the new month of opportunities for spiritual growth. The change is always easier when level of energy is high – if we direct the energy into changing ourselves in Tefillah, it will be used constructively, if we are oblivious to the chance, the energy can even destabilize us or dissipate inconsequentially.

In a sense, Rosh Chodesh is similar to Rosh HaShanah – just with a different scope.

Just like Rosh HaShanah helps us to create a new year full of opportunities, so does Rosh Chodesh give us a chance to break out of our routine and rise up.

Rosh Chodesh is also regarded as a special time for Jewish women. You can read the standard explanation “why?” here, but I think the deeper reason for women’s special connection to Rosh Chodesh, is that our ladies are much more in tune with the dynamics of time and renewal.

Men need rigorous halachic times laws just to be basically in sync with spiritual reality,

while women are exempt from those laws – because they are generally already in tune with times and do not need specific Halachah for that. Interestingly, many Chassidic Tzaddikim were known to be very liberal with halachic times – perhaps because they reached the level of being in tune with times – similar to what most women have from birth.

So while women might be more in tune with the energy of Lunar renewal, men also try to catch up with Kiddush Levanah – another wonderful mitzvah using the Lunar energy of growth and rejuvenation. B’Ezrat Hashem we will discuss it in one of the future postings.

Today is the first day of Sivan and in 4 days we have Chag Shavuot – holiday of receiving the Torah. The energy needed to form the Holiday is also descending today – so we start defining our receiving of the Torah already today!

Good Month Sivan to everyone!

Chassidic · Energy · Halacha · Ish Tam · Jewish · Joy · Kiddush Levanah · Mitzvah · Moed · New Moon · Prayer · Rosh Chodesh · Shavuot · Tefillah · Tzaddik

What is a Secret and Kabbalah learning

We all hear about secrets – secrets of ancient wisdom, secrets of Kabbalah, people promising to open and reveal the secrets, people keeping secrets… What is the real secret of a “Secret” ?

“Secret” is not an information that is hidden by other people or circumstances – it is information which is hidden because it is not understood.

Secret is not understood because of the lacking of level or state of consciousness necessary to grasp the particular concept about the reality. This makes pure intellectual learning and analysis of deep Kabbalistic concepts completely useless. A person is getting an illusion that he is learning, however he has no ability to understand what his mind is recording.

This is one of the reasons Jewish tradition required men to master the Talmud before starting to learn the Kabbalah – they had to develop their consciousness before starting with deeper levels of Torah learning. However if they learned Gemorra mechanically, ignoring the aggadic parts (that are intertwined with legalistic material to develop the right-brain thinking), they will continue to learn the Kabbalistic material in the same way – understanding little and never being able to apply the wealth of wisdom practically.

In a similar way, Jews approaching Kabbalistic wisdom without the background of mitzvoth can’t make sense of it – it remains a secret. One needs mitzvoth to get on the level of consciousness needed to understand the Sod – fourth deepest level of Torah.

Moreover, the mitzvoth and the Torah learning must be done with the heart – when it becomes a part of you, transforms the consciousness and allows to understand the Sod.

Gemorra · Ish Tam · Kabbalah · Mitzvah · Secret · Sod · Talmud · Torah

Establishing the successful communication with the soul also requires overcoming erroneous expectations that literally close from us the real paths of connection.

One of those myths is that once soul communication is functioning, you have a video stream of information filling your mind with amazing revelations, or voice resolving your dilemmas, or …. you fill the blanks.

This would be nice but most of us simply don’t have the minds and souls developed enough for the intensity of communication like that. In reality our soul communicates in much more subtle ways. The blessing and the issue at the same time is that many people already do hear their soul, they, just don’t realize that. The barrier in this case is simply self-made. We are constantly receiving a lot of information beyond our five senses; however most of us simple learned to tune it out from conscious awareness.

With this in mind, carefully examine and re-evaluate the input you are receiving:

Body signals:

Body Signals are another way our soul communicates to us – we need to develop sensitivity to this non-verbal language our Neshama uses. Examples might include throat tightening or choking when saying something inappropriate at the moment, eye or hand lightly twitching (frequently right one signifies “Yes” and the left one “No” to the thought that is currently passing through your mind), or feeling of warmth lighting up in your heart. Whatever the physical signal is, it’s only important in the context of what is happening at he moment.

Synchronicity:

Frequently the sigh or indication comes as “synchronicity” – meaningful “coincidence” of events in our life, for example turning on the radio and having talk-show host to answer the question you just asked in your mind.

It’s important to distinguish those events from the superstitions they told you. Actually those superstitions might have been a part of someone’s “communication system” – it’s just they loose any meaning once they are out of context. So unless you are sure your soul picked up one of those superstitions to really consistently communicate something to you – take them easy.

I remember many years ago I had a “three-times rule” – if I get three seemingly unconnected events point to something, I’d give it a thought. Gradually I started to see if it’s meaningful with less prompting, the a “three-times rule” become a “two-times rule” and afterwards one can learn to view events as they happen with deeper realization what they mean – the repetition becomes unnecessary.

Connection · Divine Providence · Ish Tam · Neshamah · Soul · Superstitions · Synchronicity · Unconscious

How to establish the connection with own Soul?

There are many reasons and possible answers to that question,

in this posting I will focus on one of the most fundamental reasons most of us are not connected 24/7

and suggest a practical way to deal with the situation.

Subsequent postings will look at the question from other angles.

So, Why don’t most of us by default have a connection to our Neshama?

The primary reason is that we are too absorbed in our ego-drives to hear it.

It’s hard to get rid of them immediately forever, but we can temporary shift them to “the back of our mind”.

Obviously this requires minimal control over one’s thoughts – but it can be achieved with some meditation training

(Brainwave Entrainment music can give a good start to people having trouble even initiating the practice).

If we divest ourselves from all our concerns, worries, fears, attachments and pleasures only for a few minutes, we can create an opening for our Neshama to squeeze in a thought or two into our mind .

This approach works for some, others meditate till they turn blue, and still all they hear is silence and their own thoughts breaking in

Let’s address it in the subsequent postings.

Connection · Ish Tam · Meditation · Neshamah · Soul

“Lo bashamaim Hee” (Devarim 30:12) – Torah “is not found in heaven”

in the last book of Torah (Deuteronomy), Moshe Rabeinu tries to explain the new generation of Jewish people about to enter the Land of Israel, that all the laws and mitzvoth they received are very close to their everyday life and needs:

“For that (the Torah) is your life and the length of your days” (Devarim 30:20) – this is not some abstract set of rules for mythical reward and punishment – it’s very down-to-earth manual on “How to avoid shooting-yourself-in-a-leg” and live happy prosperous life if nothing more.

Practical Torah Spirituality is very simple (Tam in Hebrew) – simple in the sense of being harmonious, holistic truth, which can be practiced by any Jew (the principles are applicable to all people, but not all the mitzvot)

This practice doesn’t require esoteric knowledge of Kabbalah (which with all my respect became too theoretical and detached from practical application),

It only needs a simple picture of “How things work” which is developed through practice.

In a sense it requires a change of thinking (most people have dominant left brain and under-used right brain) to start perceiving things in all their totality (in parallel – right brain thinking) instead of million of separate details (serial – left brain thinking).

I try to keep the style of articles on this site short and practical – in spirit of

“Simple Torah Spirituality” –

please let me know if I’m succeeding

Devarim · Hollistic · Ish Tam · Kabbalah · Moshe · Tam · Torah